The 3 Second Rule

Hey guys,

Today we're tackling a big issue, maybe the biggest, that guys run into when talking to girls: The approach, or more specifically, approach anxiety.

Approach anxiety is the feeling you get when your body feels like its about to step out of its comfort zone. It's that voice in your head that suddenly starts listing every possible bad situation you might bump into if you decide to walk over and talk to this girl. I've got big news for you, boys... Approach anxiety affects us all: The newcomers, the guys who have gotten good over time, even the naturals. The only difference between them is how they deal with it. This is the purpose of the 3 second rule.

The 3 second rule sounds very simple, but it will immensely reduce the amount of approach anxiety you get before talking to a girl. The rule is simple. The time between seeing the girl and deciding you want to go for her and you actually talking to her should be no more than 3 seconds. Follow this rule first and foremost, before the "what do I do's" and "what do I say's", and you will notice that you come off much more alpha straight from the approach. This is because you haven't worked out the perfect execution in your head, it doesn't look set up, or canned or anything, because it's not. It's natural. The funny thing is that after a few tries, and if you know one or two good openers (if you can't think of anything else), you'll notice that you'll be getting much better responses. Game is all about learning to be quick on your feet, and nothing puts that to the test like the 3 second rule.

The second part of the 3 second rule says that 3 seconds after entering the bar/club/party, you should be talking to someone. Anyone. Doesn't matter who and doesn't matter what you say. Enter the venue in a social mood, be ready to meet new friends and make memories, and don't waste time moping around finding the nearest corner to stand in. Not only does this reduce approach anxiety, but it doesn't ever give the chance for people to see you standing alone. As soon as you walk in, you are the life of the party, and everyone will want to get in on the fun! And that's before they hear anything you have to say, that's just the sheer fact that you don't hesitate before talking to a beautiful girl. It shows that this is nothing new for you, you are used to this, you are not intimidated by them.

The 3 second rule, believe it or not, will actually make your life much easier, and following it will save you a lot of headaches thinking about exactly how the perfect routine between you and her would go. Don't ever forget, you're game is a 10, so it's gonna go well no matter what ;)

My challenge to you is the next time you go out, just try to follow the 3 second rule the whole night. Don't even bother judging whether you are more successful with girls. That's secondary. The first thing you should think about is which night did you have more fun? How many more people did you meet? Which night did you take more from?

Give it a shot, and tell us how it goes! Memorize one or two openers that you know very well that can spark up a conversation and try to get to know as many people as you can while following the 3 second rule. If you want to get a more in depth look at getting over approach anxiety and the 3 second rule's effectiveness with that, email us at alphaacademy@live.com

Happy Hunting boys!


Sasha
The Professors