Lead and She Will Follow

Hey guys,

I've been completely swamped this past week with so much going on, it's been absolute madness. But as always, I had to make time to impart the wisdom every man should have and teach to his children.

Today we're gonna talk about a mistake I see again and again when I'm out at the bars. A guy will start talking to a girl and everything might be going well, but other than some conversation, not much is going on. There's no physical contact, no direction and the whole exchange is going nowhere. So a few minutes go by, and the inevitable happens... She has to pee, or her friend comes to get her, or she's leaving, or any other creative excuse she might come up with to get out of the situation. What a lot of guys don't realize is that what you actually say is one of the least important aspects of your game. I know guys that would go out with a whole script they were ready to recite to the girl that was "bound to get them laid". But that was all they had. So every time they'd go out, they'd start up with the girl great, but then 5 minutes in, she's bored and leaves. Guys, remember where you are! Nobody goes out to a bar/nightclub to stand there and have a conversation for half an hour.

This is the time to separate yourself from every other guy. Take the lead. Steer the interaction where you want it to go and raise the sexual tension. By acting like an alpha male, the girl will naturally look to you on how to feel. What's not a big deal to you isn't a big deal to her either. Take that in for a second. You are the one deciding where the interaction goes. A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking you have to wait until it's ok with the girl. They're thinking about it the wrong way. By having that belief that it has to be "ok" with the girl, you are really holding the opinion that touching is not a regular, every day thing. But if you treat it like it is an everyday thing, she'll follow along with that mentality.

The key is understanding that you touching her, or talking to her, or walking up to her is not some sort of bold statement showing how brave you are. Instead, it's just how you are. You just happen to be a guy that has no problem walking up to a girl to get her opinion on something, or touching her while interacting. It's just part of your personality. On the contrary, you think it would be weird if someone actually had a problem with that. As long as you maintain that frame of mind, she'll be inclined to be a part of the frame... It's just human nature.

There should also never be a big, ultimate moment at the end of everything. Kissing the girl or getting her number should not be this one big "holy shit" moment where you feel like you have to gather all your strength for this one great push. Instead it should be a natural progression. Again, if it's not a big deal to you, why would it be a big deal to her? So have purpose behind what you do and take the conversation where and how you want it to go!

It's been a rough few weeks with exams and whatnot coming up. But that also means that it's that special time of year. It's getting colder, the holidays are approaching, and girls everywhere need a guy for the winter to keep them warm. So it's time to sack up and be that guy!

Cheers boys and happy hunting,


Sasha
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